I’m a Forbes girl. I love reading their articles…until tonight. To be fair, this was one article and of course we all don’t have to agree but I admit that I stood up after reading it and huffed + puffed myself around the house while going over it in my head.
And to be even more fair, it was a small paragraph that pushed my buttons and to be even more fairer than that, it hit my stomach hard because it feels personal.
And here’s the part of the paragraph that sparked a small fire inside:
Christy Glass, Ph.D., is a sociologist at Utah State University who recently published a study finding that overweight women are significantly less likely to achieve career success than their thinner peers…
Hmm…I read Dr.Glass’s study and well hmm. lol. Are overweight women less likely to succeed than their thinner friends?
But I’m overweight. I started this journey weighing in at 232 lbs. at 5’4 BUT my fat, the extra weight I carry on my body, is not going to be a factor of my success. Sorry, not sorry. That’s not describing this woman.
Since I was a child, when I really put my mind to something, there was very little that could stop me from doing it. We even have a little saying: “Where there’s a Jill, there’s a way.”
Look at Hollywood
Oprah, Mindy Kaling, Kelly Clarkson, Ashley Graham, Tess Holiday, America Ferrera, Melissa McCarthy, etc. are successful women who are plus-size or have been open about struggling with being overweight before.
Jennifer Lawrence was told at the beginning of her career that she’d never make it in Hollywood because she was too big! Are you kidding me?
So, we have to take a step back and ask ourselves who defines our success?
I don’t want society’s definition of success if it means that women’s bodies are scrutinized and their talent comes only second to their looks.
Very “important” people would most likely look at my life and see me as unsuccessful but they don’t define that for me. I have two incredible girls that I’m raising to be strong and kind. I have a growing brand and business. I wrote a book and self-published it last year because it meant something to me to achieve that goal. I survived a separation with my husband and that took so much inner strength…I see that as a success! I have gone through 3 incredibly painful miscarriages and have come out stronger as a mother and as a woman. That’s a success. And now I am actively tackling my weight issues. I could go on. Point is…
My FAT does not determine my confidence to make it through this life.
FAT IS FAT. It’s extra weight on your body. And I am not going to be a woman who allows a number on a scale or the number of people who may or may not be attracted to me have anything to do with my dreams, my goals, or how hard I work at achieving them.
I’ve believed for far too long, mostly subconsciously, that being overweight was something to be ashamed of and that just gave birth to so many insecurities and lies.
The truth is, I am overweight…I am dealing with it…and God is healing the pain that has contributed to my emotional eating…I’m definitely dealing with all of that.
So, let’s remember truth. God has a purpose for each one of us. Let’s not take society’s opinions and definitions too seriously. They definitely don’t make the rules and standards for your life. You’re not a statistic in someone’s study.
Let’s pull deep within ourselves to celebrate what is beautiful and unique about the women God made us to be. More than that, let’s focus on celebrating the beauty and wonder of who God is.
Let’s be grateful for our today, in the body we have today. Size 4 or size 24, your body is precious. It’s where your soul dwells. Take care of it, even in your thought life.
So to celebrate my body and to also continue my journey of self-acceptance, coming out from behind the “perfectly angled selfie”, my husband took a little photo shoot of me.
WEEK 2: Updates
See y’all next week for my week 3 update.