I know, I know. You’re swamped. You’ve got deadlines, children, a husband, a full-time job, responsibilities. ALONE TIME may seem like a foreign concept to you now.
Hear me out sweet friend.
I promise you all those things you have to get done and accomplish and work at, all those things will go so much better, be easier to tackle, and be more enjoyable if you take some time daily to have alone time with yourself. Not alone time where you’re standing in the shower and thinking about your life…I mean REAL DATE QUALITY ALONE TIME.
BUT HOW?!! you may be thinking.
Okay first there’s the how. Sweetie, you’ve got to get up earlier. My mornings are so precious to me and P.S. it’s not selfish to block off 20-30 minutes of your day for YOU. You cannot pour from an empty glass and when you’re filling up on God’s Word (personal devotion + Jesus time), journaling (clearing your mind + organizing your thoughts), drinking coffee in the quiet morning (meditating + praying), waking your body up (yoga + exercise) YOU ARE FILLING UP ON GOOD THINGS. You are energizing yourself to make it through your day well.
If mornings are just IMPOSSIBLE for you to do then you have to be “selfish” and do it in the evenings…maybe you have free time in the afternoon…BLOCK OFF TIME LIKE THIS IS A MAJOR PRIORITY. (because you are a priority) MAKE IT HAPPEN.
Now date time with yourself doesn’t always have to be the things listed above, sometimes you can do special things.
DATE YOURSELF IDEAS.
My usual daily time: Still in my PJs or robe, I make some coffee and just be still. This is when I do my waking up. I pray, I journal, I look at my to-do list. It’s just my time and it’s lovely. It helps me be prepared for my day’s to-dos, my children, my husband.
Get out by yourself. I did Chinese take-out by the pool today. It was so relaxing and I got out so much thought clutter. Journaling is the best. If you haven’t ever kept a journal or just a doodle notebook to jot down thoughts, I am totally encouraging you to start. Take-out and journaling is a great combo.
Start a Netflix or Hulu series that only you watch in your alone time. I have started Gilmore Girls, after much pressure from certain girlfriends of mine, and I am loving it.
Listen to your favorite music and get creative. Sometimes my music inspires me in almost magical ways. I love to go to my bedroom, headphones in, notebook out, eyes closed, and let the creative juices flow.
Go to a movie by yourself.
Take a hot bubble bath, with scented bath salts or a bath bomb.
Paint your nails and do a face mask while listening to Sinatra and eating donut holes. (I don’t know, this sounds awesome to me.)
Start a devotional or read a new book. Read a chapter at a time.
Listen to a sermon on youtube. I recommend Judah Smith.
Go get a pedicure.
Go to the salon and ask for a wash and a blow dry.
Travel your city and take interesting photos.
There are so many fun things you can do and I pray that you make yourself a priority. Make time with God, alone, a priority. Date time with yourself is always better with Jesus. 😉 You do so much for others and in your life. You are so precious and valuable. Take care of yourself. xoxo.